God, give us the grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things that should be changed, and the wisdom to distinguish the one from the other. – Reinhold Niebuhr
Those who do yoga with me know that the word “should” can irritate me a little bit. Don’t should on me, don’t should on yourself, don’t should on anyone. And in the quote above, it just really makes no sense. If I could change all the things that SHOULD BE CHANGED, I would have to completely disregard the previous statement about accepting what cannot be changed, because so much that I think should be changed is out of my control.
Yesterday I listened to this podcast about having fun and getting better at it. Practicing PLAY. I don’t have fun every day. I do not play every day. Maybe not even once a week. Most days I’m simultaneously bored, overwhelmed, behind, and making dinner while washing clothes, hanging other clothes up to dry, and all the other things I SHOULD be doing.
Today I did some seriously mundane, no fun, grown adult work that I had put off until the last possible minute, or just past that. But also because I’m a responsible adult, I am actually in control of what I do with the rest of my time. It’s Up To Me To Plan Fun & Play. I CAN schedule something fun for myself. I CAN play fun music and dance and laugh. I CAN play a quick game of “Who Pooped?” with my kids, because it always makes us laugh hysterically. I CAN decided to do something fun, if even for a few minutes.
So, what do you need to Just Get Done today. Be the adult – do it. And also be the adult and Make Something Fun Happen. You are in charge. If you aren’t having fun – make it happen.
The Practice — Do Something Fun On Purpose. Play On Purpose. Enjoy On Purpose. and then tell me about it!
- I’m going to go pick out some pumpkins with my kids. We aren’t going to carve them today, cuz I’m not sure I’m ready. That doesn’t sound fun. But picking them out sounds fun. Here goes.